neverwuz
Having posted here for about, hmm, off and on, 12 years, I saw a posting below about "hooking up with a dancer" .
Now, i know that people are going to say "well, she's different" "she's just like me" and all the other stuff. So time for a good dose of reality.
Simple truth, this business is a business. It's about putting butts in the seats, drinks in front of you, keeping you interested and entertained, just enough that you hang out there with cash in hand. it's about a woman, providing a fantasy, providing an accessible, real life version of a an ultimate female fantasy and making her money, taking a shower and going to the bank the next day.
Hooking up with her is the farthest thing from reality for her. She might have a guy at home, might have kids from a previous marriage she needs to support, or in some cases, pursuing her own dreams to make them a reality. You don't fit in her world and if by some chance, it does happen, reality will set in.
Do you know how much it takes to provide that fantasy? how much work goes into it? All you see is the end result, her getting in her car as you leave. She works there and the last thing she wants is you tailing her.
Hooking up does happen and if it should, hey, great for you. But if you take away anything from this posting "it's her world and you are just visiting." I have been there, i have done that, and I have dated one or two in my time. But sometimes reality isn't what you perceive it to be.