May 19, 2013 5:07 AM PDT
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Sax said:
This thread blows my mind. All of the drama: "be a man" "ask a waitress" "what do I do?" -- holy crap, it reads like "Bad Night at My First High School Dance." Whatever happened to chillin' and having fun? When did going to a strip club get so damned serious? Y'all need to lighten up. If a girl you want is sitting with another guy, ASK ANOTHER GIRL. This isn't speed dating. It's a friggin' 2-minute dance. All these weird rules and posturing are damned ridiculous.Point 1: For all those saying, "Be a man": If you were a Man, you wouldn't be in a strip club in the first place. Strip clubs are for males with more money than game. A "baller" isn't the guy holding a dancer hostage and making it rain in a club. A REAL baller is the guy who gets the same action from "civilian" women for free.Paying to be a baller makes you automatically a non-baller. You are just a lame-ass wanna be. It's like buying a Lakers jersey and pretending you are Kobe.Point 2: Regulars are bad for business and the club owners need to put a lid on that shit. (And when I say "regular," I am not talking about the guys who come in and drop $1000s on many dancers, I am talking about the guy who comes in just to see one dancer, over and over and over.) Yes, any one regular can *appear* to be good for any one dancer. As several have pointed out, dancers make a good percentage of their income from a small number of regulars. However, this is failing Business 101: You want to diversify your income sources to reduce risk. Just like a stock portfolio, no regular should take more than 8-10% of your income... Less if you don't feel you can handle losing 8-10% of your income suddenly. Having a heavy regular is like putting all your money into one stock. Dumb.For the club, a lot of regulars can seem like a good thing, but it can be a double-edged sword. Regulars lock down your best money-makers, the girls with great personality who know how to entertain. The regulars hold them hostage, and prevent them from making the larger percentage of your customers happy repeaters. The customer comes into your club, and if all the good girls have regulars, your entire new customer base is exposed only to girls who don't have a clue. The new customer gets frustrated, approaches a girl with a regular, who reject him, and he doesn't come back to your club.The regular, if he ever falls out with the dancer (make that WHEN), is probably going to leave your club out of awkwardness. Regulars, again, are not ballers. They are sensitive wusses who have to pay for play. They get butt-hurt when the dancers don't treat them a certain way. Most regulars are probably "on the spectrum" - they don't know how to relate to women in the outside world, and they congratulate themselves that they have a "true friendship" with a hot, nympho-like stripper who "really likes" them and "gets them" in ways that other women don't.If I were an owner, I would make a rule that a dancer cannot sit with a customer for more than X minutes, and then they have to get up and circulate, and cannot sit with that customer again for Y more minutes. (Say 30 minutes/15 minutes.) An exception could be granted if the club were slow, or you could just lengthen X and shorten Y.I remember the days when dancers called the shots in the club, when dancers managed the regulars rather than the other way around. This new way sounds like the regulars are running the game, and everyone is losing: management caters to them, dancers fear losing them, and other customers defer to them. No good dancer (or club) should be afraid of losing a regular; they should have the confidence to know that every potential customer is the next regular. I guess this is what happens when you have too many clubs in a down economy.
sax "incredulous" beat
-->Well said Sax. I can't tell you how many times, I've been on the other side with new dancers who I wanted to dance with only to have a regular ruin' my night in not geting a chance with them. I remember sexy Lexi(ontario hall of fame) apologizing to me the next time I roll in to her club last year on how this certain regular did 7 half hour VIP's and not all in a row they would come back downstairs to sit and chat/drink some sodas for awhile and then go upstairs and do another half hour once again. She told me he sees her as a date rather than a dancer. She said he hog her for about the whole entire 8 hour shift. You do have some guys(regulars) that do go overboard, but I don't see regulars as bad business if they only take about a half hour to an hour of a dancers time especially if she's doing a 5 to 8 hour shift as it gives other guys a chance at her when she is freed up.