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Have you ever fallen in love with a dancer / Customer

    • 188 posts
    March 18, 2012 9:48 AM PDT

    Have you ever fallen in love with a dancer / customer?

    Did you tell her / him?

    What happened?

    How did it end?

     

    What do you think?

     

    I would love to read about your experiences, opinions, ideas, what you have heard from your friends / co-workers etc.

    Please keep it polite and civil.

     

    If you'd like to stay anonymous you can PM me your answer.


    This post was edited by Ronin at March 18, 2012 9:53 AM PDT
    • 1 posts
    March 18, 2012 10:50 AM PDT
    Quick reply
    Yes, a dancer.
    Yes, and her me.
    She left her BF, I almost left my wife.
    We both came to our senses after the best 8 months of my life
    We just both parted ways, still friends.
    And i'm still with my wife. (3 years later)
    Don't talk to her anymore, she's moved on and don't think she even dances anymore.
    I was mid 30's she was 19 (yea i know, go figure)
    Good times though.
    • 49 posts
    March 18, 2012 12:04 PM PDT
    Yep.
    • 4 posts
    March 18, 2012 12:08 PM PDT

    Yes - a dancer

    Yes I told her - it scared the living "you know what" out of her at first.  She pulled away at first but then...we dated for some time.

    Life took us in different directions and the love affair moved towards friendship and the next thing we knew we weren't seeing each other at all.

    She called many years later.  We caught up but never reconnected.

    I fell in love with someone years later who told me she danced at one time.  Interesting how life plays out.

    • 49 posts
    March 18, 2012 12:13 PM PDT
    10 years ago. She was a dancer. I was a dj - then moved up to manager. Great relationship. We were married for 2 1/2 amazing years. We have a daughter. She finished school and retired from dancing. I work at another club now- we are not together anymore- but we are very good friends- she is in a relationship with a wonderful woman in her same proffession - and my wife and both of them are great friends- and my daughters from my current relationship and my older daughter all play together on a regular basis. I'm not sure how I got so lucky- but that relationship was great and SHE made me such a better person- Than I was before her.
    • 66 posts
    March 18, 2012 2:53 PM PDT
    yes to all three questions and it was a Dancer/Her

    It was one of the Best times ever ..
    She was super cool super sexy super real, nothing like the act she played in the club..
    And some of the best sexual experiences I've had and I'm no spring chicken..
    Yes I fell in Love With a Stripper and I fell hard...Amazing how I still miss her...
    It's sad to fall in Love with someone who has someone else..
    yeah I had 20 something odd years over her but, she was a smart ,intelligent beautiful insatiable woman
    As you can see I haven't fully recovered but I'm getting there....
    Theirs been others/Dancers but this one was something special!
    • 207 posts
    March 18, 2012 6:54 PM PDT
    Like others I once took my feelings too far and it almost cost me my SO. In hindsight I realized how ridiculous it would have been (and costly). Thank goodness i came to my senses and got out of that situation.

    Nowadays I only let myself fall in "lust" with dancers.....one song at a time ;)
    • 456 posts
    March 19, 2012 1:25 AM PDT
    Hey Ronin, so you're in "love" with a dancer? Really??? Whats her name?
    • 188 posts
    March 19, 2012 8:07 PM PDT
    Posts and PMs have been great. I appreciate reading about your experiences. Please keep them coming.

    Sal, I too have a story to tell. I would like to wait a little bit before I post mine.
    • 49 posts
    March 19, 2012 9:04 PM PDT
    Women rock! Dancers kick ass!
    • 1 posts
    March 19, 2012 11:23 PM PDT
    Hey guys...well...I have to be honest...this is the first time I post on this board...just joined like 10 min ago.

    I did because I met a dancer today...at a Club in Industry...she is amazing...very cool and down to earth...

    Anyways, it made me change my thinking about dancers and what they want in life....I think I am more than just interested in her...

    What advice can you give me.

    Quick8
    • 1515 posts
    March 19, 2012 11:40 PM PDT
    I really couldn't say much on this thread because I haven't fallen in love with a dancer. I go to clubs for the naked girls and the LD's, not to fall in love or looking for a relationship. The club is a place for me to forget about all the baggage that comes with love and relationships. Thats another reason I don't like talking to dancers, I don't want to risk going there.
    • 1515 posts
    March 19, 2012 11:58 PM PDT
    Mobile Edit: "Thats another reason I don't like chattimg too long with dancers, I don't want to risk going there."
  • NY
    • 99 posts
    March 20, 2012 3:17 AM PDT
    Nope, what happens in the club stays in the clubs with the exception of privates. Been around too long and seen how badly most customer/stripper relationship ends. I like the let the big head do all the thinking when I'm in the club, saves me a lot of grief.
    • 75 posts
    March 20, 2012 12:46 PM PDT
    Go to club and enjoy yourself.

    No need catch feelings for a ho-ho.

    There was one @ Vu had feeling for ME last year.

    She tell me "I know you don't want me to be your girlfriend".

    No shit, I don't. You do cocaine, smoke weed and other drug. You can't help but lie-it is such a habit of yours.

    And you been around the block more time than a 73 Volkswagen!

    Monga

    • 66 posts
    March 20, 2012 1:19 PM PDT
    Fear of real intimacy is some of you guy's problem... and I do understand that fear 'but ,you have to let go of that fear sooner or later ..
    I like women, it doesn't matter what she does for a living. if fear is not involved I can be intimate with a.... Stripper, Doctor, Nurse, Congress Woman ,Lawyer, Teacher ,Pornstar, Escort, ATF, whatever ect,
    But if you have to hide those feelings(intimacy) and take em out on some women you want to abuse in a dark setting and she lets you then so be it,,,,,,,
    At the end of the day we still have to live with ourselves fear and all...
    • 75 posts
    March 20, 2012 1:30 PM PDT
    I can be physically intimate with strippa. I can pursue a relationship with one, if I see fit.

    But here is the rub (no pun intended):

    What guy in his right mind would pursue a relationship with someone in sex industry?

    She probably is an alcoholic and use drug. She will lie to you. She will probably suck and fuck other men. A strippa usually has parental issue.

    As my buddy Anal Andy say about strippa, "somewhere somehow Daddy fucked up"!

    If I want real intimacy, I will pursue civvie not strippa. Some guys have fear of commitment. It's natural. No guy want to be stuck with wrong girl for rest of his life. You get divorce-you are stuck for child support, etc.

    Strippa are okay to rent/lease some physical fun for a while.

    Monga
    • 1515 posts
    March 20, 2012 1:44 PM PDT
    Physical intimacy and emotional intimacy are different.

    It's not even about fear of emotional intimacy. I just don't want to deal with it. SC's give you the best Bang for your Buck for physical intimacy.
    • 1127 posts
    March 20, 2012 2:49 PM PDT
    Quick8 said:
    Hey guys...well...I have to be honest...this is the first time I post on this board...just joined like 10 min ago. I did because I met a dancer today...at a Club in Industry...she is amazing...very cool and down to earth... Anyways, it made me change my thinking about dancers and what they want in life....I think I am more than just interested in her... What advice can you give me. Quick8
    [LouASS]-->Just take this all in as FANTASY not REALITY!!!!  You have some Strippa's that know how to hustle, Know how to push the right buttons, to have Men fork over their .   Some have been in this game a LOOO000ng time and are very good in playing Jedi mind games with guys emotions.
    Sometimes some guys don't know the difference(especially newbies/new to this hobby) and get caught up way too much in Fantasy land that they need a freind in hand to bitch slap him to come to his senses.   Just watch,  If you aren't spending on this same particular dancer anymore watch how she will change her behavior & disconnect away from you and talked to other guys to BS'em outta their Money. 
    Sometimes I think they should create a new  Academy Award for best "FAKE actress" as some of these strippers know how to put on a GREAT SHOW and I'm not talking about them  dancing on the stage, but working out on their acting skillz out on the floor with the Poor saps who fall for it.  Not most, but many do & falling in love,Stalking, Going bankrupt, I'm sure happens, but most dancers don't care as long as they are getting paid as that is their job to create Fantasy an illusion that some guys are too stupid to understand.
  • March 20, 2012 3:48 PM PDT
    No
    • 1515 posts
    March 20, 2012 4:25 PM PDT
    Benn said:
    No

    Haha!  

    • 8 posts
    March 20, 2012 7:21 PM PDT
    Like lopaw said, I fall in lust. And yes, that lust usually makes me dig into my wallet a little more than I should, but I don't take it beyond that.

    Not that is not at all possible (not saying I have super game or anything along those lines), just saying chances are slim and its really not my thing to bet against the odds.

    I'm not sure if its just me, but its fun to chase what you "can't have." Just remember at the end of the day and at the bottom of your wallet what you're most likely to get.
    • 8 posts
    March 20, 2012 7:27 PM PDT
    Quick8 said:
    Hey guys...well...I have to be honest...this is the first time I post on this board...just joined like 10 min ago. I did because I met a dancer today...at a Club in Industry...she is amazing...very cool and down to earth... Anyways, it made me change my thinking about dancers and what they want in life....I think I am more than just interested in her... What advice can you give me. Quick8

    Hey Quick8,

     

    This is just my take on it, but if she isn't willing to spend time with you in the club while business is slow and is not willing to meet with you outside of the club for a something casual or even just texting etc, move on and clear your head.  She's probably just looking to empty your wallet. 

     

    I understand she may not be willing to meet with you or exchance numbers after a first or second encounter.  But if you're dropping fat amounts of money just to get some face time with her, I think that's a very very very very bad start.

     

    Also you got to keep in mind, are you going to be okay with her dancing if you two do end up getting together?  Are you trusting enough, not the jealous type, etc etc etc etc. 

     

    Sorry to be a killjoy, just trying to help.

    • 28 posts
    March 20, 2012 11:07 PM PDT
    Monga Akbar said:
     If I want real intimacy, I will pursue civvie not strippa. Some guys have fear of commitment. It's natural. No guy want to be stuck with wrong girl for rest of his life. You get divorce-you are stuck for child support, etc. Strippa are okay to rent/lease some physical fun for a while. Monga
    Alot of "civvies" are far more screwed up than any stripper. I have met and worked with alot of nutjobs, I can't even began to tell you. Believe it or not some of the people in the sex industry are the much more balanced and "normal" than people outside of it. My best friend married an escort. She is a sweetheart, very smart business wise and street wise. An just a good person, very well adjusted. They have been married ten years now and everything is great. They have a nice family with kids. If he had an attitude like yours he would have passed up a great woman & a great life...

     

    • 66 posts
    March 20, 2012 11:12 PM PDT
    Now thats what I'm say'n
    Thanks melikiblondes!!!